1. Why do you think your Mother has AS? · Echolalia of a type… she cannot be a passenger in a car without reading out all the signs along the way · Lacking in empathy · Intelligent but completely unable to understand sarcasm, irony and sometimes metaphor · Obsessive about routine – when my father had a stroke, she was totally thrown by the fact she had to go to the hospital every day, and couldn’t make her regular trip to town · Cannot drive to and from places without knowing the exact route in advance, preferably having been “chaperoned” the first two or three times, otherwise she gets lost. · Singleminded to the point of selfishness – she has her own routine and can’t understand if she stays with me she has to bend to my routine – she expects me to change to her routine, even after my father explains it to her two or three times. · Constantly interrupts my father when he is working but will lose her temper if he asks her a question while she is engaged in a task · I’ve always known she was “different”, but because she is from India I felt it was more a cultural thing. But even though some of her sisters are very similar, I think that is probably because they have AS too.
There are lots more things, but when I sit down like this, to list them all seems petty. 2. What do you hope to get out of being a member of ASpar? Just to talk about my feelings of guilt and anger especially about only finding this out at age 40. Especially to help me with my feelings toward my “normal” father, who left most of the parenting to my mother even thoughshe was not a good parent – although I wasn’t abused, I was often confused.